What exactly is an unhealthy relationship? Could my relationship be toxic? Do I or my partner show toxic behavior? What exactly is toxic behavior in a relationship?
Do you find yourself asking these types of questions about your relationship? Are you feeling a lot of emotion or concern when you read those questions?
If you do, then keep reading and find out if your relationship has toxic relationship patterns. If you have unhealthy behavior in your relationship, there is help out there for you and your partner.
Types of unhealthy relationships
There are many types of unhealthy relationships. The type that comes to people’s minds first is abusive behavior. The type of unhealthy attachment. The type that the woman or man may be in immediate danger.
There are more than just those types of toxic relationships. Many people ignore the fact that they have a toxic person as a romantic partner.
You don’t have to be in an abusive relationship to have an unhealthy relationship. There could be lying, cheating, controlling, substance abuse, broken trust, and many more signs of a toxic relationship.
What are the five signs of an unhealthy relationship
Here are the five signs of a bad relationship. There could be:
1. Dishonesty — When a person is lying, even if it seems small at first. In a romantic relationship, there should be no lying.
2. Control — Controlling behavior is when the dating partner/spouse thinks they can tell you what you can and can not do or who you see or don’t see. This is not a sign of deep love.
3. Disrespect — This can come in many forms, such as not showing up when you have plans, putting you down, disregarding your opinion, ignoring you, and the list could go on for pages.
4. Dependence — This is when, in intimate relationships, one person becomes dependent on the other person. For example, if your partner isn’t happy, then you can not be happy.
5. Jealousy — Some people think that this trait is okay. That when their partner shows this trait, then it must mean that they love them. However, this trait is a warning side that there are problems within the relationship.
Do you show have any of these five signs, it could be that you are in a toxic relationship? You may need to seek professional help, such as a life coach or therapist.
What are red flags in a relationship
There are red flags in a relationship that you do need to watch out for. The red flags I am talking about have to do with domestic violence. This is when the toxic partner has become an abuser. The abuse can show up in many forms. Here is a list of abuse that you could be experiencing.
1. Emotional abuse — This is when your partner is putting you down emotionally. Telling you that you shouldn’t be feeling a certain way. Telling you that you are stupid for feeling a certain way.
2. Physical abuse — This is when the toxic partner actually hits you in any form. This could be punching, pulling hair, slapping, hitting you with an object.
3. Verbal abuse -— This is when the abusive partner abuses you in any verbal form. This could be violent yelling, harassing, insulting, scolding, labeling, and excessive yelling.
4. Sexual abuse — This is when abusive sexual behavior by one person to another person. This is forced or someone taking advantage of another.
If you are experiencing physical violence or any type of abuse there is help you can get. You can call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-787-3224. You can also get professional help from a local organization in your area.
Effects of unhealthy relationships
There are many effects that a dysfunctional relationship can have on somebody. Some effects are more extreme than others. I know for me that one of the major effects it had on me is I experience anxiety.
I will feel anxious when some movies have scenes of any domestic violence or violence against women. I can not stand to watch those types of movie scenes. My heart will start racing, and I will feel like I can’t breathe.
This is from being in an abusive relationship and being hit on by the man I was dating. In my dating relationship, he was physically and mentally abusive.
Long term effects of unhealthy relationships
The long-term effects could be depression, anxiety, isolation, and other mental health conditions. The long-term effects can also be helped by life coaches and therapists.
You could also have relationship issues in your future relationships because of the abuse if you have not worked through the effects that your abuser had on you.
Why do we stay in unhealthy relationships
There are many reasons that people stay in a dysfunctional relationship. Most of the time it is because the person doesn’t want to be alone or feels unsafe to leave the relationship.
Sometimes the partner thinks that they will be able to change the other person. What if they just love the person enough, then that will make them change for the better. This doesn’t often happen, though.
Not unless both partners are willing to seek outside help for the relationship. In that case, there is a chance for a healthy relationship with mutual respect.
I hope this helped you in answering your questions about your relationship. If you are in immediate danger, there is help for you. In case you need the number again for the hotline, 1-800-787-3224.
You should be able to feel safe in a healthy romantic relationship. If for some reason you feel unsafe, you may need to explore that more and find out what exactly is making you feel unsafe.
I was in a relationship, and I was always on edge and would jump at any slight movement or loud noise. I would dread going back home to where my boyfriend was at. Not only that, but I would find myself making excuses to stay at a place longer.
I knew that when I went home I would have to walk on eggshells because the littlest thing would set my boyfriend off, and he would yell violently at me. He would call me names and put me down.
I felt so stuck as I had nowhere else to go. I know that feeling of being stuck and feeling helpless. Furthermore, I know the never-ending battle that I would have with my thoughts and knowing that it wasn’t right.
I reached out and got help. It wasn’t easy. That was the hardest action I have ever done in my life. I knew I had to get out of the situation. My boyfriend started pushing me and getting physical.
I am telling you this story to let you know that you are not alone. There are women out there that know how it feels to feel as though there are no other options.
Leave a comment if you have ever been in this situation and overcame it. Let’s give each other hope and lift one another up.
Have a blessed rest of your day.
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